DOCTRINES ON MARRIAGE
What the world calls matrimony is different from the perspective of heaven on the subject-matter. Not long ago, I watched a telecast where the preacher described human marriage by making the following illustrations.
- When a man and a woman in church stand before a pastor desiring to be married and the pastor asks them to exchange marital vows and he blesses and declares the man and woman husband and wife, they are married.
- When a man and a woman desiring to be married go to the Registry and take an oath by signing affidavit of marriage, they are married.
- When in a traditional ceremony a father hands over his daughter to her suitor to be his wife, they become husband and wife.
None of the above meets the definition of marriage according to the Bible.
There are three definitions of marriage in the Bible corresponding to the three groups of people on earth – Gentiles, Jews and Christians.
To the Gentiles God said in Genesis 2:24 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
To the Jews Jesus said in Mark 10:
5 And Jesus answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
6 “But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’
7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,
8 ‘and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.
9 “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
To the church Apostle Paul said in Ephesians 5:31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (NKJV)
There is a thread that is common to all three.
“For this reason”
Sex is marriage. Therefore, every act of sexual intimacy must be in the context of marriage or else attract divine wrath.
Men are men; man is a woman. Marriage is between a single man and a single woman. Not everybody is qualified to be married. You must be single either by having never indulged in sexual intimacy or haven been spiritually divorced from all such previous acts.
“Leave father and mother”
Every woman has a man as her head at any point in time. Parental consent is obligatory. A father’s consent is required before a man can ‘know’ his fiancé. Traditional ceremony is a good example of leaving.
Cleaving has natural and supernatural components. It takes place during the first conjugal act. It makes a man and a woman to become one flesh.
Consequently, a denominational organization cannot join a man and a woman in matrimony. No minister of the gospel is vested with the supernatural power of making a couple to become one flesh. Registry wedding cannot join a man and a woman. Cleaving is between a qualified man and a qualified woman and God.
It is obvious that most contemporary weddings do not follow biblical due process. Marriage not joined by God can derail from destiny pursuit. For any Christian whose marriage did not follow due process ‘marriage correction’ is imperative. It involves deliverance from filthiness in the innerman and the outward personality. “Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. (2 Cor 7:1 NKJV)