There is a popular denominational doctrine that says you cannot remarry if your ex-spouse is alive. This church doctrine has no foundation in the scriptures. It has done more harm than good to the Body of Christ.

God has nothing to do with the remarriage of unbelievers. His relationship with Gentiles the heathen who are regarded as dogs in sexual matters is the gospel of grace of God for the salvation of their souls.

If you married as an unbeliever and before you gave your life to Christ the marriage broke down through departure, putting away, acrimonious separation or divorce at a court of competent jurisdiction the union ended with your heathenism. From the moment you surrendered your life to Christ you became a new creation with new matrimonial rules. Your pre-salvation sins have been forgiven but you need to deal with iniquities arising from those sins. This is what is called spiritual divorce. The filthiness in your ‘body and spirit’ must be cleared away before you can truly become single again.

If you married in the Registry you must secure a legal divorce to become eligible to remarry as a child of God. The denominational doctrine that you cannot remarry after securing spiritual and legal divorce has no scriptural foundation. If your ex-spouse is alive you have nothing to do with him or her again unless he or she becomes a Christian and you can relate as brethren. You cannot remarry your unbelieving ex-spouse as that violates the clear teaching of the word: “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?” (2 Cor 6:14). Under the Law of Moses, it was an abomination to remarry and ex-spouse. (Deut 24:1-4).

As a married unbeliever if you surrender your life to Christ while living with an unbelieving spouse the rules are different from the above. Your unbelieving spouse must be willing to continue with the marriage provided circumstances have not altered substantially, for example remarriage. Willingness is both affirmative and demonstrable in everyday family life. For the believing spouse the only ground for divorce is death which may be physical or spiritual.

An excerpt from: CHRISTIAN WEDDING: What the Bible Teaches. To read more go to:

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